new paradigm – unabashedly female

â€œYou never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.â€ ~ Buckminster Fuller

And so it seems fighting the structure that is patriarchy is not where to put our energy. Fighting something only keeps us attached to it, and there seems to be enough fighting going on in this world already.

Instead, what is this new model? Bucky Fuller was into building things. The old model that is dying was built up during the Industrial Revolution. It’s been about mechanization, about thought, and about a large serving of the masculine.

Birthing

What is coming, though, is very different. What is new is not about mechanization and won’t come about by building it. It will come about through birthing. Yes, that’s right. BIRTHING.

We are giving birth to the new consciousness. Women hold that archetype, whether or not we birth babies. And this new consciousness is being born by women who are rebirthing themselves into a conscious knowing of the sacred feminine.

This new consciousness is not about women taking over, it’s about coming into balance, about healing the earth and realizing our roles as stewards of life. It’s about realizing the sacredness of life, in all of life.

What will it take for us to relax into the delivery? Anyone who has either given birth, or who has witnessed a baby being birthed, knows the mother basically has to surrender to the birth process.

Hanging on makes birth, and life, painful and intense. And letting go, receiving the birth, brings a little more ease. Maybe. Either way, birth brings transformation.

Play

I remember how I transformed after having each child. Birth transformed me in completely unexpected ways. The birth of any creation through us transforms us. We leave the old behind. There’s a kind of death, and from that death the new is born. The whole world is alive in play. Why would we be any different?

I’ve noticed that one of the hardest things for me to relax into is this sense of play; a sense of flow and ease, of not having to have a label for everything. I have been in a place of in-between for some time, now, and it isn’t so easy to navigate. I make it hard. I try to put solidity to flow, firmness to malleability, exact labels to what it is I will be doing, and perhaps it is as simple as I am doing what I am doing, whatever name I give it, whatever I call myself.

And then I see that we know what we know. If we are really truthful with ourselves, we know. Can we trust ourselves and this knowing? This is the question, because the answer is crucial to birthing something new.

I’ve shared some words about trusting yourself… you know what you know… over on Andrea Olson’s site, A Multitude of Things. Please read on…I think it will speak to you.

And you?

As always, I’d love to know what you think, what’s happening in your life and how you’re experiencing this process of birth and re-birth. I hope you’ll share them here in the comments.

With love, Julie

You’re my tribe.

This is a conversation I’ve needed to have with myself for quite a while, now. So, I’m gonna have it here, and share it with you all, too. You’re my tribe.

I’m going to out myself… in service to helping me know, and hopefully any of you out there who are in the same place, that I am indeed part of a remarkable tribe of visionaries.

Sometimes, it is easy to think everyone else has it together, everyone else is completely comfortable in their work, no one else hears that inner critical voice…

The fact is, I’ve had an incessant voice in my head that has driven me somewhat bat crazy with its insistence that the stuff I write and teach about is ‘out there’, a bit ‘too much’, ‘too sexual’, too crazy, over the top, not important, too esoteric, not what people are willing to pay for, that people won’t ‘get it’ … you get the picture.

women’s ways of knowing

the mystery and the unseen world

ways of the heart

the sensual, erotic nature of life

raw and wild creativity…

are out there, a bit wacko, not all that important…

WOAH.Â Doesn’t that look odd?

Just hearing myself say these things aloud, on paper, on this computer screen remind me of how powerful our inner critics are, how desperately they want to keep us safe, tied to the tribe, one like everyone else.

And…we no longer have the luxury of listening to this voice.

Isn’t it just flat-out crazy?

how our inner-critics keep on pushing that old boulder up the hill, no matter how much feedback we get that we are doing our work in the world?

How many times I have heard in the past month from people who are writing about the feminine, God, spirituality, love, kindness, women’s rage, the plight of life here on earth, and who’ve also expressed fear about speaking out, fear that friends will think what they are saying, writing and sharing is weird and out there.

Right now, so much of what fills our airwaves still reflects the old paradigm. It still mirrors old ways of being, ways that denigrated the feminine, saw only the logical and reasonable as valuable, and so on.

What we share from our hearts, what we teach to our clients, what we write on our blogs, the ways we do business, are all creating a new world, a new way of being with each other.Â This IS the new paradigm.

The idea that what we are saying, writing and teaching is weird to the old way makes sense. It IS Weird, different, new to the old way. And, isn’t that perfect? It means this IS a new way.

An Enlightening Force

I believe in the erotic and I believe in it as an enlightening force within our lives as women. I have become clearer about the distinctions between the erotic and other apparently similar forces. We tend to think of the erotic as an easy, tantalizing sexual arousal. I speak of the erotic as the deepest life force, a force which moves us toward living in a fundamental way. And when I say living I mean it as that force which moves us toward what will accomplish real positive change. ~Audre Lorde

Think of the Suffragettes and their amazing work to bring the vote to women in our country. They worked for decades, facing all sorts of backlash from so many. What gave them such incredible determination to work toward this goal for so long?

I wonder if it was this enlightening force that Lorde wrote of…

The thing is, we’ve reached a tipping point. I can feel it. There are so many of us doing this work to bring women’s wisdom forward to serve life.

What if?

What if we just realize that the voice inside doesn’t really want us to stay quiet… it just wants to be listened to, heard, loved? What if it wants to know that we are surrounded by those that understand us, those that love us, those that will stand by us as we do our visionary work in the world?

What if we make sure we tell others we support their work, champion and advocate for them, send them a little love note every now and then, remind them they are not alone…

It’s both an inside job – realizing our wholeness within, and also an outside job – finding the people in our lives who truly honor and support our work in the world… our tribe.

Heal within:
Slip your inner critic a love note… tell it that you now know and realize you are not alone…you are part of a glorious band of creative lovers of life telling a bold new story of a new way of life on earth…

Reach out to others:
We are not alone. We are not individual bodies, swimming alone upstream against an immovable force.Â We’re all together… a glorious tribe of erotic visionaries with an eye for beauty and a deep vast love for the sacredness of life…and we are held by life itself, life that at its core is love.

And, you…

If you see yourself as one of this tribe of erotic visionaries, a woman who feels this ‘enlightening force’ in your life and is working to accomplish real positive change in service to life, please share this in the comments!

Please let me know, let us all know, so we can see just how big and luscious this tribe is!

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