Every Sunday morning, I dance. Last SundayÂ was no exception.
As I danced and felt much pleasure from being in my body, I realized howÂ I’ve pushed away pleasure for most of my life. I know I am not alone in this. Perhaps we do this when we grow up in a culture where the undercurrent ofÂ belief is infused withÂ pleasureÂ equating to sin.
But, it’s more than that. As I danced, I began to feel the pleasure myself, and for a moment it felt odd that there was no one else there…only me. I was enjoying my own experience of pleasure, sensual pleasure, and there was no ‘other’ in the experience. I could see something I hadn’t seen before: that giving myself pleasure, either through dance or any of the things I love to do in my life, changes the experience of who I am in others’ company. I know this sounds simple, but hang with me here for a minute.
In my life, and I am sure in your’s in your own unique way, there’s been a silent undercurrent of ‘having to BE pleasureable’, like it is a duty I must fulfill to be a pleasurable person Or, that if I am good I will give others pleasure. Could be sexual, could be in another way. But, as I feltÂ pleasure, I realized I was pleasurable without having to BE anything. The only thing I was doing was doing what I love and truly being in my body while doing it.
I was simply feeling pleasure. I was taking myself into myself.
It reminded me of something I’d read this past week. I came across this post byÂ Erin McKean where she writes:
You Donâ€™t Have to Be Pretty. You donâ€™tÂ oweÂ prettinessÂ to anyone. Not to your boyfriend/spouse/partner, not to your co-workers, especially not to random men on the street. You donâ€™t owe it to your mother, you donâ€™t owe it to your children, you donâ€™t owe it to civilization in general. Prettiness is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked â€œfemaleâ€.
I realized that we don’t owe pleasure to anyone either. Offering pleasure to another ‘is not a rent you pay for occupying a space marked “female”.’
Instead, when we participate in those things that are pleasurable, we radiate pleasure.
Sometimes it is hard for me to know what I desire, what I want, what I love. In that moment of dancing, there was no question. I was loving how it feels to be in my body, loving how it feels to dance, loving how it feels to be a sensual human being.
I included this IrisÂ picture here because this picture brings up the same feelings of pleasure…sensual, pleasurable beauty. This photo takes my breath away. The colors. The feeling. The dreaminess. It works on me, through me, removing layers of resistance I have to knowing my own self in this way.
We are hungry for such pleasurable beauty, for such deeply sensuous tenderness and pleasure in our lives. Hungry for it. Aching for it, because the soul loves it. It is soul food.
The soul gets to feel what it is to be alive through the body, and heaven knows there are enough moments in the body when life is not pleasurable.
Why not feed the soul some really lovely, pleasurable sustenance?
Pleasure is soul food, and what I was experiencing was truly a divine connection between my conscious self and my soul. For me, this is the most important relationship in my life. And knowing this makes my quest for living a life of love all the more alluring because I knowÂ it is my soul that brought me to dance in the first place. She guided me there and she continues to guide me into what I truly love, for it is She who truly loves.
Pleasure is just one of the weekly topics we explore in my 12-week program, Becoming a Force of Nature. Pleasure is an important area of exploration for those of us wishing to be more alive and more in our bodies. Pleasure is part of life, and it is a gift to offer to the soul.
If you’d like to go deeper into the way I facilitate creativity while applying what you learn in real-time to your own life or business vision, join me for this summer run of Becoming a Force of Nature.Â Registration is now open.
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When you live your life as a work of art, you come to realize you are the true creation.
This is the last time I will be offering the course in this format. Along with 12 teaching calls, you’ll receive 12 rich multi-media PDFs for each course weekly segment. After the course is done, you’ll be able to dive even deeper by way of these rich interactive lessons.
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