Existence is relationship and you are smack in the middle of it. ~ Alan Watts
I am in a deep exploration of Eros. I suppose I have been for quite a while. It was showing up through me â€“ in my photographs and writing â€“ but now I am making a conscious decision to move into a thoughtful, open, inquiring exploration of what this form of love truly is. It is calling me.
Eros is love. It is joy. It is beauty and deep feeling. And it is power…
Iâ€™ve been writing a lot about power: the kind of power we see today in our culture and the kind of power that is beginning to take hold in our world that is truly a form of love, a form of Eros. I see these two expressions of power from a relational perspective, for all of life is relational.
The power we witness in our culture today is what I call â€˜power-overâ€™. Power-over is hierarchical and is characterized by domination and control. In our cultural systems, those in power are held higher in privilege and worth than those who are not. Those who are in power are supreme over those who are not. Those holding up the power structure are those who have power, whether it be through positions of power or unearned privilege.
This is finite power in a closed-loop system. It’s a zero-sum game. Why? It is a systemic power granted by and held within this specific system. The system grants it depending on how high you rank in the system. But there’s a catch. It’s ultimately not true power in the larger reality because there is a greater source of power than power-over.
Power-over is based on control because to believe that this is true power one must ignore the truth that life is really in control – that life is the greater source of power. Think about it. Within our culture, we do not entertain the truth about death (part of life). We push it into some kind of ignorant oblivion. As long as we refuse to see death and its power, and to see the power of nature itself, those in charge and in power of our cultural systems can pretend that they are all powerful beings, which they are doing on a continual basis.
But there is another form of power emerging. It is power-from-within. Power-from-within is also a systemic powerÂ but within a different system – the system of life, whether it be the whole of life or one’s individual life.Â Over the past decades, people have been becoming more consciousÂ and doing the work to heal wounds and become clearer about who they truly are. What weâ€™ve been doing is waking up to our power-within. Not everyone is doing this, but so many are. And it’s shifting things.
Within one’s own internal system, there is a flow of life force that comes from Source. It is aÂ steady flow through the body while we are alive. The internal world is the world of the feminine, the world of soul.Â When the feminine rises within, there is a movement to know and live our power-from-within â€“ our naturally creative, life force power â€“ into the physical world.
The thing about power-from-within is that when we live it, we are no longer living solely in flow with the status quo. The power that flows from source is intelligence that is alive. It is fueled with intelligence that knows something more than any one human being, or two, or even three, could know. This intelligence is tied to the whole of life.
Power-from-within is Eros. It is deep creativity. Power-from-within is the expression of this love into the physical world of matter.Â
Now you know why Eros has been made to be something to fearÂ or something that is only sexual in nature because if we fear our source of true power, we will stay within the power-over dynamic, even if we are in the ‘under’ position.
Eros is definitely orgasmic, but then orgasmic experiences are, again, found in so much more than just sex.
Power-with is when I am living power-from-within alongside you living your power-from-within. Power-with is generative. When I live power-from-within, I take nothing from you. I don’t dominate you. I don’t try to control you. In actuality, the reverse happens. When I live power-from-within and you witness this happening, the awareness of your own power source begins to be awakened in you.
So here’s the thing. Alan Watts wrote, “Existence is relationship and you are smack in the middle of it.” In order to navigate and negotiate power-over structuresÂ from a power-from-within approach, we must come to remember that we are smack in the middle of life itself. A power-over system is not the ‘big’ system of life. It is pretending that it has that power, but it does not. When we come deeper into the real relationship with life and know ourselves wholly from this place, we can then see these power-over structures for what they are. It does not mean they go away, but we can navigate them differently with this generative life-affirming power.
We navigate them differently through Eros and our relationship with Nature and the Earth. Earth becomes our foundation. We begin to weave our power-from-within together.
We become resourceful and resilient, together.
Eros is love. It is deep feeling. It is beauty and joy. It is pleasure. It is life moving through life, asking life to blossom fully. This is the love we can embody in order to bring a new world into being. Eros connects us and when we are connected we are much more powerful in responding to the power-over structures.
When sleeping women wake, mountains move. – Chinese proverb
It is time to awaken to our power-from-within. To do so, we must go within. That is the task at a hand and we are up for it.
This is what I do in my coaching. I guide you to awaken to Eros, to your power-from-within. I then walk with you as you begin to live this in the world. I’d love to be your coach.